is sex a big factor in love?

[White snake]

ever felt stressed or pressured to have sex? or worry you won't do a good job?

is sex even an Essential part of it ? not experiencing how people define it as "normal" ?
having some problems it? have a story to tell ?

not sure what you should know from useful fact about it? or hearing crap ?

lets talk about it^^

I have noticed in my relationships sex eventually comes into play in stress so lets shed some light on it^^

(IMPORTANT* please be advised to be opened mined, sensitive and respectful of others post!!!)

[Snowy]

To me, I'll never worry not doing a good job at it since I know I'm good enough (hehe, you can ask Neko ) . I will go as far as saying that sex is not essential in a relationship. I never get pressured into having sex. In fact all my life I've been lucky enough to have myself choose rather freely. The only two guys I ever had sex with all my life are very professional with their PUAs and so do not have to pressure me for sex. My fiance and the other one would be [I think I'll keep that name private]. Most girls get pressured into sex by men who are weak with PUA with their only mean of sex coming from tricking a girl into thinking she has a relationship to tend to.

Now even though I share my bits, I think your story works in a whole different ballgame. First of all, no matter how equal the homosexual society try to be with the heterosexual society, they will never be the same. Our values are different. It is very difficult for my judgement to help with yours. You'll have to give us some background information about the homosexual values.

[White snake]

whats PUA??

hmm kind of hard to say really but i guess i would have to say for youth its similar to hetrosexual values, but then it also depends how out is the person ? if he is still in the cloest he may stil lbe dealing with internal problems?

but i would say some youths tend to do it for curiousty wantting to experince how is it like sleeping with a guy?

hmm i guess even myself i do not have afirm grasp of it, but i would say not really a big factor for youths at least the foucs would be placed more realtonship since its jus hard to find a guy to commit ( not marriage but in a mroe serious realationship)

but also one guy in the realtionship may tend to want a more open realtionship ? ?

though old guys (40 and above ) tend to pry on the youths curisouity when they are first questoning about there sexual oreintation.

[Snowy]

whats PUA??

hmm kind of hard to say really but i guess i would have to say for youth its similar to hetrosexual values, but then it also depends how out is the person ? if he is still in the cloest he may stil lbe dealing with internal problems?

but i would say some youths tend to do it for curiousty wantting to experince how is it like sleeping with a guy?

hmm i guess even myself i do not have afirm grasp of it, but i would say not really a big factor for youths at least the foucs would be placed more realtonship since its jus hard to find a guy to commit ( not marriage but in a mroe serious realationship)

but also one guy in the realtionship may tend to want a more open realtionship ? ?

though old guys (40 and above ) tend to pry on the youths curisouity when they are first questoning about there sexual oreintation.

PUA is pick up art.
I would imagine homosexual youth would place more emphasis on sex. I would go as far as saying the basis of homosexuality is purely a sexual one. Sure, homosexuality is not a new concept. But it indeed is a new 'social factor'. With the recent years of gay marriage and the sort, homosexuality just very recently recieved recognition as being a part of mainstream society. As such, I would assume that it had always been more of a sexual interest than a relationship one.

[Neko]

yep, i think snowy's onto something here... the gay community never really had to conform to social norms. In fact, the gay community had always been running on the basis of "We're proud, we don't care what you think, we're proud". In not conforming with social norms, it will not conform with social values such as the one-love-one-life concept. Sure there are exceptions, but it's quite true that until the recent gay marriage fiasco, the gay community is generally run by the concept of a sexual culture of sort. Am i close or am i way off? i dont pretend to know, but from what history's been suggesting... that's what i concluded.